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Can you legally get married outside in the UK?

The short answer is yes, you can get married outside in the UK. The longer answer? Unfortunately you can’t legally marry anywhere you choose. Under current laws, you can only marry at a licensed venue and they need to have a fixed, permanent structure hence the abundance of wedding venues with gazebos. We’re not licensed and so admit that we’ve thought about getting a gazebo ourselves but when we ran this past some of our couples, there was a huge outcry that we should not be going down that path. “There are gazebos everywhere” we were told. “We like Brook Farm because it is different and we are free to style it as we want.” So that was the end of that.

The good news is that the law surrounding weddings is currently being reviewed. It is hard to believe that our current law was made in 1836! Because not a lot has changed since then has it?! As I write this today, the Law Commission are analysing consultees’ responses and a report is due to be published with recommendations towards the end of 2021.  They aim to present a reformed law of weddings that will allow couples greater choice within a simple, fair and consistent legal structure, so that people can have a wedding that’s meaningful to them. Well overdue but at least this is happening.

So what do you do in the meantime if you want an outdoor wedding? The vast majority of our couples invite their guests to their ‘wedding’ at Brook Farm. The guests arrive to see the most beautiful and unique ceremony set up. They sit beside the lake and then watch the bride make her entrance through Pine Tree Aisle.  They then witness a deeply personalised ceremony ~ a ceremony like no other. The couple exude happiness. This is it. This is the real deal. This is exactly as the couple had planned it. Some antiquated wedding law is not going to take their dreams away from them.

But what is actually happening I hear you cry? You’ve already told us you’re not a licensed venue.

The couple are already legally married – they will have done this a few days to a week before in a bog standard registry office with just an intimate few. Now they are having their outdoor wedding just as they want it. Their wedding is taking place where they have chosen it to. They have a unique celebrant led ceremony which has been designed just for them. (I’ve talked about celebrants before but if you’ve not looked into them yet – do it. It’s a game changer.) And that’s it.

Until we have a new law passed that hopefully will recognise what we need from a wedding law today, we have our workaround. And as workarounds go, it’s pretty special.

Photo Credit; Michelle Cordner Photography



The Bar

So many different views on this subject – a free bar, a paid bar or a subsidised bar? It can get confusing so we thought we’d share some top tips to help you with your planning.

The vast majority of our couples provide drinks to their guests during the reception and with the meal.  After this, a paid bar is in place for the evening.

The evening bar is the time when it gets complicated (and expensive) because there are a lot of variables involved. There are so many different spirits and mixers to choose from and that’s before you start venturing into the world of shots and cocktails. Trying to do this yourself will leave you with a headache and a whole load of leftover drinks. You are far better off getting a bar company such as The Swig & Filly or a caterer like Kingfishers who can run the bar on your behalf.

They will understand the quantities and types of drinks that will need to be supplied as well as the number of glasses that will need to be ordered ~ this is really important when you are on a dry site such as Brook Farm as you can’t simply wash a few up if you run out.  Leave it to the professionals so you do not need to stress yourself out thinking about these things.  They will have experienced staff who will be happy to serve your drinks in the reception and then add the finesse to the bar in the evening, meaning your guests are well looked after and have an amazing experience.

Sometimes couples want to provide a free bar and you can but please consider this. Whenever there is a free bar, people seem to put their drink down then forget where they have put it so they just go and get another one. This means you use a lot more drinks, a lot more glasses and it makes it impossible to keep the place tidy. It is very difficult for the waiting staff to know whether to clear the glasses that are all over the place – is someone still drinking it or has it been abandoned? Things get messy quickly which is a real shame after the work that has gone in to making everything look so good.

A few other little things to consider are:

  1. Don’t forget to supply water. Often steel buckets are filled with bottled water and then dotted around the place for guests to help themselves too. This is really important. It keeps everyone happy and hydrated.
  2. Please also remember that we need to have someone managing the bar who holds a Personal Licence.  (As we are not physically managing the bar we need to have someone in place managing the bar who is aware of all the responsibilities around alcohol.) This cannot be a guest at the wedding.
  3. Finally, lets talk about serving your drinks nice and cold.  Chillermatic have been providing refrigerated trailers to our couples here for years and we would certainly vouch for them.  Your bar company may be able to provide a refrigerated trailer but if they don’t, we would definitely recommend getting in  touch with Chillermatic because nobody wants to drink a warm beer.

Of course you can do things differently ~ we’re big believers of having your wedding your way ~ but this is by far the most popular option and it’s always nice to know what people normally do.

Photo Credit; Michelle Cordner Photography

The Timeline

So you’ve made all the big decisions and got your suppliers sorted but now you’re trying to slot it all together. Should be easy right?  In actual fact, this is one of the areas that can often cause a lot of stress but there is a simple solution.  Ask the experts.

Yep, those good old suppliers are burstng with knowledge. Unlike you, they do this all the time and they have so much experience – you just need to tap in to it.  If you have a wedding planner then they will be all over this but not everybody will have this luxury. Fear not, a key supplier that you will all have, is a caterer and they are so well versed to advise you on the order of the day.  Let’s face it, the food and drinks are the core part of every wedding and they will be able to tell you what works and what doesn’t.

A timeline that we’ve found works really well at Brook Farm is outlined below.  Please note, there are two timelines; if you are having your ceremony here, a good start time is 2pm but if you are just having the reception, arriving around 3pm works perfectly.

14:00     Guests Invited to Ceremony

14:30     Ceremony Begins

15:00     Drinks Reception

16:30     Wedding Breakfast & Speeches

19:00     Evening Guests Arrive

19:30     First Dance followed by Cutting the Cake

20:00     Evening Music – First set for a band

20:45     DJ / ipod

21:15     Second set for a band

22:00     DJ / ipod

23:30     End

Why does this timeline work so well?  Have a look at the notes below for more details.

Arrival Time
Whatever time you invite your guests for, they will arrive earlier than that.  In our experience most guests will arrive around 30 minutes prior to the start time and you’ll always get a few keenos that arrive up to an hour before the start.  Please bear this in mind.  Will your venue be ready for them?  It is quite dull for your guests to hang around watching us set up.  At Brook Farm, we won’t have any parking attendants on site until 1pm at the earliest – it is important the guests don’t arrive before this time as people will start parking all over the place and all the aesthetics you’ve worked hard to achieve can be ruined quite easily with dodgy parking right next to your marquee.

The most popular time couples usually have their ceremony is 2pm.  This gives you guys enough time to relax and enjoy the morning while nailing your wedding prep photos.  It also means everyone has a chance to eat lunch before they come – including you.  Seriously, it’s a long day and although you don’t want a feast you should definitely eat something.

Drinks Reception
One and a half hours is a nice duration for the drinks reception.  Certainly do not go any longer than 2 hours.  It is enough time for your guests to socialise and enjoy a drink or two and a few canapes but not too long so they’re blind drunk by the time they sit down at the wedding breakfast.  I know it sounds a bit dramatic but I’ve heard stories where there has been a long drinks reception and lets just say, it all goes downhill from there…

Wedding Breakfast
It is not that common anymore but if you do decide to have a receiving line, let your caterers know.  It takes far, far longer to seat your guests.  Without a receiving line it will take 15-30 minutes to get everyone seated although this is dependant on your guest numbers.  Make sure your table plan is visible during the drinks reception.  People will naturally find out where they are sitting during this time so it is then much quicker to get them seated.

Nowadays, each couple tend to order the speeches at different times so I would definitely recommend discussing this with your caterer.  They need to know when to have the food ready to serve so clear communication with your caterers is key.  I’ve actually seen it where the caterers have started plating the food, ready to serve and then a speech has started.  It was a change the bridal party had made a few days before but had forgotten to advise the caterers of.  It is not the end of the world if this happens, good suppliers adjust quickly but obviously they want to serve you and your guests the best food possible so they would not plan to have it ready 15-30 minutes before they are going to serve it.

Arrival of Evening Guests
7pm is usually the perfect time for the evening guests to arrive.  The wedding breakfast should have finished and there will be enough time to say hellos and get a drink prior to the first dance.

First Dance & Cutting the Cake
At 7.30pm the evening guests will be nicely settled in and can enjoy the first dance.  While you have everyone grouped together, cut the cake.  This will mean you only have to group everyone together once and this flows so much better than letting everyone disperse and then regrouping them again.

Like many venues, we provide the sound system which has volume control in it.  This set up has been in place since 2015 so has been tried and tested by countless couples.  It works really well because it never cuts the power or music, just controls it.  Live music is far more dynamic than a DJ which is why all live music has to finish by 10pm but a DJ can continue.  Due to this, you should aim for the band’s first set to start at 8pm.  They’re usually 45minutes long which means the band can have a 30 minute break before then starting the second set at 9.15pm.

End Time
Most couples advise the end time is 11.30pm even though, in reality, they know it will be more like midnight.  This is because our end time of midnight is strict and we have to have all of the music off at that time.  When people advise 11.30pm is the end time, it then gives the guests a chance to request ‘one more song’ (normally 2 or 3 times).  It also gives everyone a chance to say goodbye without it feeling like an abrupt ending.  In all likelihood, your wedding will still end at midnight but by advising 11.30pm is the end time, it will feel more relaxed and helps close the wedding nicely. It is certainly preferable to getting to midnight and just turning everything off.

A popular choice among a lot of couples is for their guests to all stay in the same hotel.  There are two reasons for this.  If anyone wants to continue the party they can, in the hotel bar. Secondly, your guests can enjoy breakfast together and chat about how wonderful the day was / catch up on any funny stories – there’s usually something!  If you do decide to arrange a block booking at a hotel, the ideal way to transport your guests is on a bus or coach.  Your guests can really relax knowing that their transport at the end of the night is sorted and it is another fun experience for them. All the little things adding up to make great memories.

One of the most common things we hear is that “we want to make the most of the day and enjoy every single minute we can”.  We understand that and you will but if you start too early, it doesn’t necessarily make it more enjoyable.  Using the timeline above ensures you fit everything in, there is a nice flow to the day and everyone is able to truly enjoy themselves.

Photo Credit; Kirsty Mackenzie Photography

Working in the Wedding Industry

It’s National Careers Week so I thought It was an ideal time to share a little insight about what it’s like to work here. I’m always surprised by the interest people show about working within the wedding industry. I guess it is appealing due to all of the happiness we associate with weddings but from a supplier point of view, it isn’t always like that…..

Before we go any further, I should just state that it is genuinely amazing to work in the wedding industry.  Getting to know a couple and helping them to have the day they have been dreaming of.  Meeting all of the guests and having a chat and a giggle with them throughout the day.  Working with the suppliers who you get to spend a lot of time with and, over the years, they become friends and a solid support network.

It is also immense, hard work.  There is so much preparation and work that goes into our venue prior to a wedding day.  So much administration with local authorities, the couple and their suppliers.  And on the day itself, you are looking at 20,000 steps easily with an early start and a late (sometimes very late) finish!  You have to deal with all manner of hiccups and problems that arise in the run up to the day as well as on the wedding day so you need to have a lot of patience and fantastic communication skills. You also need to be prepared to graft. It is not easy. People are a significant part of this industry and the emotion that weddings evoke can be challenging, so you will be tested!

Do the good times outweigh all of the hard work and hassle?  Absolutely.  And that is why it is an amazing business to be in.  If you are thinking about working in this industry then go for it.  Expect to work hard, trust your gut feelings but most importantly, enjoy the good times because that is what it is all about!

Photo Credit; Hannah Mia Photography

Table Plan, Seating Plan, Brook Farm, Brook Farm Cuffley, Michelle Cordner Photography

The Guests That Don’t Make The Cut….

As yet, we don’t know what is going to be allowed in the coming months but boy have we got our fingers crossed! One thing that seems probable is that weddings will be allowed but capped at a certain number of guests.  We know that many of you are trying to get ahead of the game and are thinking about drafting up a smaller guest list, just in case that is what you have to implement. But what about the guests that do not make the cut? The guests that you want to invite but aren’t allowed to….?

First things first, people will understand. This is not a normal time. Yes, of course they want to be there celebrating with you but if COVID has other plans there is nothing that can be done about it. So, is there anything you can do, to try and make things a bit better?

Letting them know that you wanted them with you on your special day will go a long way.  Don’t just not invite them, keep quiet and feel uncomfortable about it.  Let’s be honest, they are probably expecting to hear from you regarding changes to your plans and have probably already thought about the possibility they won’t be able to attend. Give them a call or send them a card to explain the situation. With this in mind, it would be worth heading over to Instagram and giving Sundown Paper a follow. Not just because Sarah produces the most creative, colourful and fun stationery that we think will be right up your street, but also because we’ve had a little heads up that Sarah will be posting some example stationery for exactly this sort of message very soon.

Of course, you don’t necessarily have to not invite them full stop. Some couples are inviting those guests to join them for the wedding speeches via Zoom. I know, it sounds a bit crazy but we’ve got inventive over the last year and this idea has definitely got legs.

If you’re able to, how about sending them a small bottle of bubbles with an invitation to pop it open as they zoom in to your wedding? Everyone can enjoy the speeches and toast you together. It feels inclusive and is an example of one of the many ways we’ve adapted over the last 12 months and shows that we will not let this pandemic spoil your plans.

Another way you can include the guests that aren’t physically with you on the day, is to send them all a piece of your wedding cake. Still order the huge cake you were going to have and after you’ve cut the cake on the day, arrange for it to be portioned up and boxed and sent off to all those that could not join you. For someone like Natasha at Nevie-Pie Cakes, this is a walk in the park.  A boutique cake company in Herts that specialise in painted cakes.  If you haven’t come across them yet, you should definitely check them out. They are incredibly talented and have supplied to Harrods, Selfridges and Fortnum & Mason so I think you can rest assured that you are in good hands.  Normal business involves constantly sending out cake samples, so they are more than happy to offer a service to their customers, where they cut up their wedding cake and send it to all of the guests that weren’t able to join you on the day.  Your guests will be delighted to receive it and feel touched that you have been so considerate – it’s the little things like this that will make a huge difference to both you and your guests.

By acknowledging their absence and making the effort to show these guests that you care, it will alleviate a lot of your stress and will make them feel special. We’ve heard time and time again during this pandemic about the importance of connection and these gestures are exactly that. You can then relax and enjoy your wedding day as you truly deserve to.

Photo Credit; Michelle Cordner Photography




Brook Farm Cuffley Wedding

Scaling It Back

From a quick snap poll of our couples, it seems they are pretty fed up and we can understand why.  I think it is fair to say that we are all exhausted by COVID and the continual uncertainty and stress it is throwing at us. Obviously, perspective is important.  Thankfully, most of us have been very lucky and have only had to make a few lifestyle adjustments but, it doesn’t take away the frustration of not knowing whether your wedding is going ahead or not.

When this hit last year,  most of our couples said they did not want to make any changes to their day and just wanted to push their wedding date back. However, this year it seems that most of our couples are keen to go ahead and really just want to get married and celebrate!  Plans have been made and they are no longer prepared to wait.

We are all going crazy wondering what will or will not be allowed this year but the number of guests you’re allowed is the obvious thing that may be affected. It doesn’t mean to say that you’ll have to have a micro wedding but you may have to reduce the guests numbers a bit so it is worth thinking about.  It seems that, if necessary, a lot of our couples are considering reducing their guest numbers so that their wedding day can go ahead. It is far from ideal but hey, this is a global pandemic and nothing is ideal.

So, if this is the path we have to go down, what do we need to consider?

The first thing that pops up in conversation is what else are you going to scale back on?  Obviously the guest list but is there anything else?  Well, it doesn’t necessarily all have to be about scaling back.  When it comes to food and drinks you might even decide for more luxurious options.  Although your guest numbers may have decreased, your suppliers probably have a minimum spend which means you can now choose some of the finer things. Smaller weddings are all about the intimacy and experience and there is something special about being really spoiled with great food and wine.

With regard to everything else, you just need to run through your original plans and see where you might want to make adjustments. Look through your list and decide between yourselves if there is anything that you definitely will not scale back on.  If listening to the band or having the amazing flower installation was THE thing you’ve been dreaming of, then still do it.  There might be some things that you decide you no longer need  – maybe you don’t need as much entertainment or maybe it’s as simple as cancelling the coaches as you no longer have so many guests.

One thing we would suggest, is that when you are reviewing your plans, please don’t lose sight of the fact this is still your wedding day.  Admittedly when you get the calculator out the cost per head will probably have increased but before you get to gung ho about cutting things, make sure you consider what is more important; the cost per head or the look and feel of your wedding day. There is a balance to be found that will be right for you.

When it comes to the format of a smaller wedding, it doesn’t need to change unless you want it to. If you look to Marie and Wes featured in the photo above, they celebrated their main reception with 52 guests and it was a blast. They were married in the Parish Church in Northaw and then celebrated their reception here with the tipis provided by Tipis4Hire and Kingfisher providing the catering and bar. I’m sure you can all sense the joy emanating from this photo. It was there in abundance and infectious throughout their day so smaller certainly does not mean lesser.

From a year where we have been socially starved, it is exciting to dream of any kind of gathering and those that are there will revel in the euphoria of this feeling.  The pure joy of celebrating your wedding with your nearest and dearest is going to feel amazing and it truly will be a day to remember!


Photo Credit; The Springles

Wedding Insurance

The coronavirus is dominating the headlines and it looks likely that it is going to have an impact on us all. I mean we’re already counting for 20 seconds while we wash our hands and are waiting to see how it develops and if any major decisions will be made by the government. The talk of social distancing which could include banning big events and closing schools, might make you wonder how your wedding fairs in all of this.

Unfortunately at this stage, nobody knows but one thing some industry experts have been warning of, is the importance of taking out wedding insurance. Well in just a mere matter of days it seems that this isn’t an option anymore. This post was originally written at the beginning of the week where we found multiple insurance companies offering cover, however, we’re now in a position where it appears that insurance companies have suspended customers from taking out new policies.

In an ideal world, yes, we’d recommend taking out insurance. Even if you’re not faced with an outbreak of a disease, things don’t always go to plan so having insurance in place is a good idea as far as we’re concerned. Unfortunately that option has been taken away for the time being.

IF (and it is an ‘if’) the coronavirus affects your wedding, you’ll probably be very surprised how much people will rally together to help in whatever way they can. There’s something about the British in adverse situations where if it feels a bit unjust, we want to do something about it. Certainly here at Brook Farm we will do whatever we can to help you. But for now, please try not to worry and keep washing your hands. #keepcalmandcarryon


Photo Credit; Kelsie Lowe Photography

Don’t let the doubters faze you

So, for whatever reason, you’re getting married and you want to do it quickly. But just how quickly can it be arranged….

As far as I’m concerned the key thing here is how you FEEL about this prospect. If you want to do this then yes, absolutely – a gorgeous wedding can be organised in a mere matter of months. However, if the thought of organising your wedding in a short space of time sends your anxiety level rocketing, it’s probably best to park the idea right now.

It should be stated that you definitely need to feel confident about this because you are going to have so many people gasp when you tell them and question why on earth you are doing this. That’s their bag, not yours. Don’t let the doubters faze you.

First things first, if you’re able to get a Wedding Planner on board then do it. They will find out what your key ideas are for your big day then they will delve in to their little black book (or more likely a pretty little organiser) and hit you up with suppliers that are going to deliver what you want. They can plan the timeline for your day and give you advice on everything. Knowing that a professional has got your back is a pretty good feeling! If you’re going down this road, here’s a couple of great planners to try; Perfectly Planned 4 You and White Button Weddings

If your budget doesn’t stretch to this then pick a friend or family member (the pragmatic, non-panicking kind) to help.  It is nice to have one specific person to run through things with.

For all of you lovely Brook Farm couples, ask us. We’re happy to be your sounding board and will give advice and suggestions wherever we can. Our brochure is a must read when planning your wedding here and is packed full of of wonderful suppliers.* 

So we’ve sorted out who is going to support you but what do you actually have to do? Let’s run through a real life example from one of our past couples. Meet Rachel and Josh (the guys in the photo above). They booked at the very end of February and had their wedding here a few days in to June. That’s 3 months.

They fell in love with Brook Farm but when they found out that we organise all of the boring bits (generators, cabling, toilets etc) it really was the icing on the cake! It meant they only had 4 additional things to book and given the timeframe, that was a to do list they could manage.

  1. caterer
  2. bar
  3. florist / styling
  4. band / DJ / entertainment

And there we have it. Not quite as daunting as you first thought? Like a lot of things if you take time to pause and break it down you often find that there’s not much to it. Rachel and Josh breezed through their planning and I still clearly remember how cool that wedding was and can still feel the good vibes of that day. So if you’re up for it just crack on and remember, don’t let the doubters faze you!


*The reason they’re in the brochure? Because we’ve seen them in action and love what they do (no dodgy venue/supplier deals here!).

Entertaining the little ones

One of our recent posts discussed whether to invite kids to your wedding but one thing is for sure, if you are inviting them, keeping kids entertained is the failsafe way to having happy kids. That is just the way it is and of course happy kids means happy parents who can relax and enjoy themselves. So just how do you keep them entertained at your wedding…? At Brook Farm you’re lucky enough to have space and plenty of it which is something that kids just love. The freedom to run around and go crazy is hugely appealing to them so you’re off to a good start but here are a few other ideas to throw into the mix.

A basket full of simple games is always well received. We’re talking; bubble wands, balls, hula hoops and space hoppers. If you have lots of kids attending you might want to think about something more substantial like a bouncy castle. Just be prepared to lay down some rules for this with a sign saying how many are allowed on at a time – if kids know the rules they are often compliant so it will make it easier for everyone.

Another option is to provide a bit of entertainment for the grown ups and kids together. Have a look at Dolly Dimples who are a Herts based company that provide traditional fairground games. They will set up your games on the big day and are then on hand to help catch balls, make things look pretty again, and explain how to play the games if needs be, enhancing the experience. Their games are unique as they have personally designed and lovingly handmade them. To finish off the look they surround the games where possible with bunting, scatter their signature heart sticks into the grass and they also come with their own carnival font wooden signs. Providing something like this through your drinks reception keeps the kids entertained but it is just as good for the adults and gets the conversations flowing between all of your guests as they have a play.

During the speeches when you are trying to keep them still and quiet, a little goody bag for each child is a great idea. It really depends on the children and their ages as to what you fill them with but the beauty of this kind of thing is you can create your own unique bag. To give you a few ideas of what to put in; colouring, paint your own biscuits (I promise they’re not messy – google it), puzzles, lego and if all else fails, do not panic as their parents have probably already got their phone charged ready to show them their favourite cartoon anyway!

Hopefully this has given you a few pointers for how you can try and keep the little ones amused but I think it is important to acknowledge that, when kids are involved, even the best made plans will not be executed to perfection. It’s good to make the plans but you’ve got to be able to just go with the flow as it doesn’t always go as planned. Flower girls and page boys may refuse to walk down the aisle, your children may decide that in the middle of your blessing they want a cuddle with you, they might try and escape during the photos (see above) and you might even get heckled in some form during the speeches. It doesn’t matter. There is no such thing as perfect and often these little hiccups can add some humour and normality to it all. One of the many wonderful things about kids is their brutal honesty in showing you exactly how they feel at any given moment so just embrace it. At least you tried to keep them happy.

Photo Credit; Purple Pear Tree Photography

Seriously?! Are you inviting kids to your wedding???

So whether you choose to have children at your wedding or not turns out to be a very passionate subject. The poll we did recently sparked an immense amount of conversation (which was great!) so let’s go through the headliners…

To get straight to the point, 32% of you were in the no way camp.

I have to say that on the whole, I think it was split largely by whether you have children or not. It appears that those of you that have children think they should definitely be included and those of you that don’t, would quite like to keep it child free.

I totally understand this. When we got married we only had children from the immediate family there. We were restrained on numbers at our venue but to be quite frank, we just didn’t want other kids there. We weren’t at that stage yet and couldn’t see the appeal. Now we have children, I’d definitely include them, especially if we were at a venue like Brook Farm. They’re not as scary and disruptive as you might think or maybe we’re just so used to them now we don’t notice but they actually bring a lot of fun, and happiness to the day. I mean look at the dude above? Tell me his headband/sweet stash and upside down binoculars don’t make you smile?

So what happens when children aren’t invited…? Some of you pointed out that it is actually quite nice for parents to have a break and leave the children with a babysitter (often the grandparents!).  It is far easier to look after the kids in terms of feeding, naps etc when they’re at home but it also means the parents can let loose without having to worry about the little ones.

On the flip side, others told me just how weird it felt to be at a wedding without your kids and if you don’t have any babysitters on hand you have to miss out on the whole day.

It is a tough one but I think it is pretty much like everything else. You have to go with your gut feeling for what YOU want on your wedding day. I certainly wouldn’t have tried to convince the child free me to invite kids to our wedding – I don’t think I’d have listened. I absolutely knew I wanted my nephews there but why would I want any other kids?! It was just not on our radar. It would be a totally different story now though – I would love to have my wedding at Brook Farm with our kids and everyone else’s running around enjoying it all. I think it would be a far more relaxed affair.

You know the drill. It’s your wedding, your way so you do what you want. If you decide not to invite children the parents usually will find a babysitter and still come along and have some fun.  However, if you decide that you are going to invite children then I think we should take a look at a few ideas for how you keep them entertained and what you would do differently and that is going to be a whole new post….

Photo Credit; Marie Wootton Photography